Guilt, shame and regret are difficult emotions
Most of us have felt guilty, shame or regret at one time or another.
Feelings of guilt, shame or regret can tie you to the past and make it difficult to move forwards into the future.
They’re also often pre-cursors to anxiety or worry – because you’re worried or anxious about the issues you feel guilt, shame or remorse about.
In the world of hypnosis and hypnotherapy, guilt, shame and regret – along with it’s sister emotion, remorse – have specific meanings.
Guilt is the bad feeling you get when you break your own rules. You might find yourself feeling guilty about something that other people regard as minor (like that time you sneaked into work five minutes late), and that’s because guilt is all to do with breaking your own rules, not anyone else’s.
Shame is feeling bad about an element of yourself. It’s a difficult emotion to deal with, because it affects you at the level of identity – shame tends to be all about something you feel you can’t change.
Most people think they know what regret is; it’s about feeling bad about the results of your actions, right? This is kind of true – it’s about feeling bad about the results of your actions had on yourself. You can’t regret what your actions did to someone else…it’s all about the effect it’s had on you.
Feeling bad about the effect your actions had on someone else is remorse.
And these emotions can be toxic.
For instance, guilt can turn to worry and anxiety which will often turn to anger.
If you feel guilty about the way your last relationship ended, you may find that you can never quite find peace, because you’re worried that your current relationship might end the same way.
Hypnosis, IEMT and you
I’m a hypnotist and an IEMT practitioner.
IEMT stands for Integrated Eye Movement Therapy, and it’s one of several therapies based on the principal that eye movements can help overcome trauma.
Using IEMT and hypnosis, I can help free you from those feelings of guilt, shame and remorse.
Which in turn can help release you from anxiety and worry.
IEMT doesn’t involve you having to relive your trauma – it doesn’t even involve you haven’t to tell me the cause of your guilt or shame, although I do understand you might want to.
All you need to be able to do is feel that emotion, and then remember when you first felt it – which might not be the first time it happened, but just when you first felt it.
From there, I can help you release those feelings.
IEMT isn’t a magic bullet therapy, and will often get used with other techniques (that I am, of course, trained in) to help you move forward in your life.
So if you’re tired of being held hostage by old feelings of guilt, shame or regret, isn’t it time to let go of them?